Those of us who have two or more young children know that they will play a long time together sharing laughter, but that they will inevitably fight, there will be anger and conflict.
Promoting a positive relationship between children is essential.
In parents is to feed a good relationship between siblings so that they get along well as children, a stage in which deep bonds of union are created.
The arduous task begins when the only child ceases to be. Start by preparing the older brother before the arrival of a baby home, involve him in his care and teach him to protect him without feeling he has been left out.
Growing up, be two or more, children will fight for toys, will throw themselves to the head, will be angry and scream. It's normal, it happens in every house.
The key is knowing how to deal with these daily challenges. Obviously, we have to get their attention when they stick or shout at them and show them that there is no way to solve the problems.
The oldest must be taught to take care of his little brother, but from my own experience (and that I am the youngest) I do not see that tendency of some parents to make him feel the eldest who should "carry" the child and hold him accountable for everything what he does. It is one thing to foster responsibility and love for the little one and another to pretend that they assume the role of parents with three or four years.
Make them also understand that you have to share the toys, to establish turns of play and encourage them to resolve the conflicts for themselves, without calling mom or dad to officiate as a judge before the slightest problem.
Equally, as much or more important than correcting bad behaviors is praising the good ones. So when they share games and do things well, it is also necessary to highlight and congratulate them.
Something that child psychologists do not recommend is to give them personal qualifications so that neither one feels nor more nor less than the other, although they say that one does not have to worry about giving them an obsessive equity, because each child needs different things at different times, which as Mother I am realizing that it is very true. There are stages in which one child comes to the forefront due to certain circumstances and others in which the other does.
Nobody said it was easy. The important thing and the science of being parents, that I am learning from day to day, is, I believe, in knowing how to pay attention to everyone as a whole and to each one separately. Attending to their individual needs according to their age and circumstances, and at the same time acting as mediators in the relationship between the brothers.
