It is very common for couples waiting for a baby to be offered preparation courses for childbirth and postpartum. More and more parents go to these courses, although on many occasions only the mother goes, and when they are there, when men go, there are lessons that do not serve them too much because they are not going to give birth, nor breastfeed or ...
This means that many men do not realize the dimension that all this acquires for women and that they do not empathize enough with them. A company in China has decided to solve it and has designed some courses for future parents to understand what it is to be a mother and make them live in their own skin various situations of motherhood.
"Put on your fake breasts, the bra and lie down"
The longest version of the course, the most intense, is the 10-day one. Ten days doing what a mother in China does, taking care of her baby, suffering several pains, without leaving home, etc.
For a man it seems like a real "Chinese torture" (never better said), but if we think about it coldly, it's only 10 days that it's nothing compared to all the time a woman is the mother of a super dependent baby: Several months.
AdvertisingAfter learning that three men had already taken that course, a Daily Mail reporter wanted to document what was cooked there by hiring one of the versions of the course, the 24-hour one as a mother, and what he lived is very interesting. Upon arrival they told him: "Put on your fake breasts, the bra and lie down."
The pain of childbirth, breastfeeding, nipple pain, diaper changes, etc.
They made him go through childbirth, although the method to achieve it is a bit precarious. They put tweezers on his belly for a good while because in his case he was going to have twins and "the delivery ended in caesarean section." As he says he had them until he couldn't take the pain anymore. Perhaps they could have also passed him through the contractions, if they had used one of the typical abdominal stimulation machines, as we have seen on other occasions.
To know the pain that a mother can suffer in the nipples, when the baby does not catch well, pinches or cracks (clear sign that there is a bad grip and that the position has to be checked) they also put nipple clamps (Auch!)
Tweezers simulate the pain that a mother can feel when the baby catches badly During the course, parents do not leave home because in China it is tradition that mothers don't go out until two months after giving birth. They believe that a recent mother's exposure to the wind can harm them. This, of course, is an exaggeration, but a course in which you do not leave home 10 days may well be representative of what most Western mothers do. Yes there are some that come out a little, a little walk, but the thing does not go much further.
After delivery, they gave their two babies and urged them to breastfeed for 15 minutes. They didn't let him sit down and explained that all three had to rest, so they had to lie down to get some sleep.
But then the "relatives" came in and with their cameras and smartphones they began to take pictures, in which the journalist recounts how the most ridiculous situation he has encountered since he is a journalist.
Every two hours a person entered the room with a mobile sounding the cry of a baby, at which time the man should breastfeed his children, whom he called Nathan Y Jane. The complicated thing for him came at night, when that frequency remained constant, unable to sleep soundly and with those constant awakenings to breastfeed for a while.
They taught him to bathe them, dress them and attend them when they cried. They explained how to catch them in each situation. Even the girl had an episode of uncontrollable crying (formerly known as baby colic), due to the work and grace of the smartphone, and they explained that she had to attend to it, rock it in her arms and spend some time doing massages and talking to them.
"The longer you massage them, the safer they will feel," they told him To eat they brought some soups and broths that apparently didn't taste very good, common for women who have just given birth, whose mission is to help digestion and stimulate milk production (another thing is to get it).
He also had to change diapers frequently, with a poop mixture of flour and soy sauce:
And so this reporter spent 24 hours, among cries, diapers, fake silicone boobs, pain in the nipples, in his belly and eating things not very pleasant, unable to leave, without air conditioning (you know, why not you can give them the air) and probably wishing that everything would end as soon as possible (you have to say, to have all the data, that you have no children).
When time passed they told him that he could get rid of his tight fake breasts (he says they bothered him a little, we imagined why he was with the "rise or fall" of the milk) and take a shower.
At that time the course was over and with him his facet of mother, but the journalist was showing a deep respect for Mrs. Jiang, the woman who accompanied him in all his learning, and explained that he takes a great learning that has helped to increase his paternal instinct, to the point that, despite everything, would you like to have your own true nathan and jane, when you find a girlfriend to start a family with, of course.
What do you think?
I understand that under normal conditions We are many men who accompany our partners in both pregnancy and childbirth and motherhood, and by becoming parents, we accept that role and share the care of babies. Not with the same intensity, not in the same way, of course, but with desire and responsibility. And understanding, or trying to understand, what they have lived and are living them. They and our baby, who needs a lot of understanding in their demands for care.
But of course, this does not mean that there are less understandable men, perhaps even tied to that eternal youth, or to Peter Pan syndrome, or to know what (and I do not say it with acrimony, but only trying to explain what they do and understand them ), that they do not understand the fatigue, the turn that supposes for them to be mothers, that the hormones are revolutionized and all together, and demand them things, do not change their way of life ("I remain the same, that the son is your responsibility ") and that, in general, are not able to put themselves in their place and act as a support and element that tries to give a little balance to everything. That unconditional support that she has to catch the baby from time to time, when she asks for it, when he feels it, when the baby wants it, that she has to take on the housework completely so that she doesn't try to do it, subtracting hours to rest or the baby, and you have to tell him how well he is doing, how proud he is of everything he has done and that he will always be there for whatever it takes.
