That the man accompanies the woman when she is going to give birth, and if it is not the couple, another companion, it is an act whose benefit has no discussion: The woman is accompanied by someone trustworthy and close who supports her at all times.
Now, when the birth that the woman expects does not happen, when everything is truncated and a cesarean section must be performed, there are many hospitals that then go into "emergency" mode and leave the woman alone, with no possibility of anyone accompanying her precisely when you have more fear and more support you need.
Many hospitals, but not all. There are those who have understood what we will now explain: why in case of caesarean section the father should be able to accompany the mother.
When can the father accompany the mother if the delivery is by caesarean section
It may not always be, not in all conditions, because a C-section is performed in an operating room, it's a medical act (Childbirth could say that it is not so much, since it is the mother who gives birth) and the father is still a person outside the service.
The woman can be with a companion if:
- So much she like baby are fine and it is not considered that there will be important complications after the caesarean section.
- The anesthesia is regional and the mother is awake. In case you had to perform general anesthesia the process is more complicated, more urgent, and then there can be no accompaniment or, in fact, it makes too much sense.
- The person who will be with the mother gives his consent to be present and is not especially sensitive to these processes: if you get dizzy easily, you better leave your post to someone else.
- The companion takes into account that if there is any complication, you must leave the operating room.
Why all hospitals should allow the father to be in case of caesarean section
Actually there is not much to say, because the logic is the same that explains why it is better for a woman to give birth with her partner giving her support and affection, accompanying her in those moments that can be very special, but also very hard because of the pain and intensity (and because it is still an act of love between the two and the logical thing is that the woman wants him to be present and that he wants to be present), but in case anyone has doubts and if in any hospital they think there is no benefit, we explain it below:
- Because if the woman was thinking that her birth would be vaginal, if she was prepared for it, the one who ends up in caesarean section is an important scare that scares, that increases anxiety and nerves and it makes you lose some part of your self-esteem: "I have not been able to give birth." In those moments, the love and love of a couple can be very beneficial because it is there, at all times, by your side, to tell you how proud he is of her and how well he is doing.
- Because immediately comes the feeling of guilt, looking for the reasons that everything ends like this and the desire that the baby is well and that he has not been harmed by something he could do or stop doing: as it is not a time for regrets or of blaming oneself, the father's support can be decisive for her Do not live with such anguish the arrival of your baby.
- Because, as a father, it is not the same to be there and see your newborn son, than to see him a few minutes later, when he has already been separated from his mother, without you knowing what happened or how it happened. For both the mother and the father, being linked to the baby in time and space is very beneficial: if they see how it goes out and do not lose eye contact, or continue with them, it is a closer relationship than if the father does not see him born and does not share the same place ... if he later sees him in a foreign place, alone, separated from his mother (if you want to read more about it I recommend this entry: Mom and baby, do not separate you at birth: the separation can affect the attachment in your relationship).
- Because being the father, she is not alone at any time and when they move to the resuscitation room they are still together, being able to be recovering with her baby skin to skin, who does not lose contact with her, being calmer, better regulating the temperature and having the opportunity to do his first take to the chest. In many hospitals, being the mother alone in resuscitation they are separated for about two hours, which is what it takes for the mother to go to the room where the father is with the baby (if the baby is not in the nursery). Those two hours is enough time for the baby to fuck worse in the chest and make present and future breastfeeding difficult. In other hospitals, whose protocols are older, those two hours may be even longer: I have heard midwives say that in their hospital at least 9 hours, which is a real madness and a nonsense for mother and child.
- Because when the mother can leave the resuscitation room, she will go with her baby and her partner, the three of them to the room, in a process in which they will only have separated at the time of anesthesia. If afterwards they have been together and have been able to remain united at all times, the three, the satisfaction of both parents is much greater, as well as the involvement with the baby and the family they just created (Does that sound like "family, united, will never be defeated"?).
What do you think? Could you be accompanied during the caesarean section? Would you rather have been if it was not possible?
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