How is this to be a father or a mother? What is best for my baby? Where can I read advice about it? I do it well? These are some of the questions that many mothers and fathers ask themselves about what they are doing with their babies, about how they are educated, raised and fed.
With the intention of ending a little with the whole issue of contradictory advice and to give strength and courage to mothers, a pediatrician hung a writing on a board that begins by saying "The best is not the chest; The best is not the bottle either", a mother took a picture and the writing is becoming famous in the networks.
The author is Jaione, from the blog Beyond the Pink or Blue, and says:
The best is not the chest.
The best is not the bottle either.
The best thing is not to take it.
The best thing is not to stop taking it.
The best thing is not that you knock it like that.
The best thing is not that you knock it the other way.
The best thing is not that you cover it in a way.
The best thing is not to cover it the other way.
The best thing is not that you shelter it with this.
The best thing is not that you shelter it with that.
The best thing is not that you puree it.
The best thing is not to break it up.
The best is not what your mother tells you.
The best is not what your friend tells you.
The best thing is not that I am with a babysitter.
The best thing is not to go to daycare or be with grandparents.
The best thing is not to follow that kind of upbringing.
The best thing is not to follow that other parenting style.
Do you know what really is the best?
YOU 'RE THE BEST.
The best is what makes you feel better.
The best is what your instinct tells you is better.
The best is what helps you to be well too.
The best is what allows you to be happy with your family.
Because if you are well, they receive the best. Because the best is you.
Because if you feel safe, they also feel safe.
Because if you think you are doing well, your peace of mind and happiness comes to them.
BECAUSE THE BEST IS YOU.
Let's stop trying to tell each mother / father what is best.
BECAUSE THE BEST REALLY FOR YOUR CHILDREN YOU ARE.
A great writing to show that as parents we must respect others
I said it a few weeks ago: mothers who give bottles also deserve respect, as all mothers who make different decisions deserve it in order to take care of their babies in the best way they can or know. It is not necessary to agree with his way of doing, it is clear that we all have an opinion and that we all choose our path, but we must respect all the options and that means that, in reality, if you don't ask us, we are nobody to give advice to others.
In addition, it is great for all those parents who are already drifting, lost because of so much contradictory advice and not knowing which way to go, because it will give them a little peace and tranquility in that sense, the "quiet, that you are doing well" .
But a writing that needs nuances, because the best thing is not always the mother
Not the father. Of course, every mother and father should do what they consider best, but the "if you are well, mom, he will be fine" is not always appropriate advice. I heard that string in many situations, and sometimes I didn't like it too much. From the "leave it in the nursery even if you don't work, because that way you will have time for yourself, that the most important thing is that you are well" to "go on the weekend with your partner and leave your baby with someone to take care of you, that will be fine ... because the most important thing is that you are well ", going through the" do not worry if he cries a little at night, because you are teaching him to rest, so that you can also rest ... because the most important thing is that you be well. "
That your common sense tells you that leaving a baby on the weekend, or crying at night, is not right? So perfect. That your common sense tells you that yes, that nothing happens, that the most important thing is that parents are well? Well perfect too, but in this case The baby does not know if he will be so clear that his parents are well, it is a clear benefit for him.
In other words, the best and only advice I would give to parents who just had a child is: When in doubt, listen to your baby. If what you do is good for you, you're getting it right, if it makes you cry, it's telling you that maybe you should try something else. He knows what his needs are and asks based on what you consider best for your survival and your health ... Well that's what we have to try to do. Not what anyone else thinks, nor will it always be what makes Mom and Dad feel better, I'm afraid.
