A mother's experiment to prove that she became invisible after having children

When we are pregnant all the care and attention are directed to us, our health and well-being becomes a priority. Then our baby is born and all those attentions go to him, because of course, now he is very important.

But what about mom? Suddenly it becomes invisible. A mother, like many, realized that and decided to do a little test.

Surely many mothers identify with what this mother tells us by saying that it seemed she had become invisible after the birth of her son. Actually it is very logical that this happens: everyone wants to meet the new baby. However, I think it is something we are failing.

Rarely do we stop to think about how the mother is after going through a birth or caesarean section. Regularly the question is: "How is the baby?"and all conversations revolve around him.

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The funny thing is that we do this of course without bad intention and without realizing it. A mother noticed what was happening and decided to check if she had really become invisible to others. He shared his experiment and an interesting reflection on Facebook.

Shortly after my son was born I felt that I became invisible.

One day I started using only one earring. Anyone who knows me knows that this is not something I would usually do, and it turned out that it took 7 months for someone to notice. 7 months of social interactions, and nobody ever looked me in the face or noticed. I realized that as a mother of two children under 2 years of age who always went out, that "I only stayed at home" or "did not work" had made me invisible; not only to society (who probably wouldn't realize I was wearing only an earring), but also to my family, to my friends, and perhaps, being very honest, to myself.

Frequently my telephone conversations with my family and friends (when I could and if I could have them) began with a "how are the children? How is your husband?" and our conversation then took the natural course where it was going. Rarely did someone ask me how I was.

Now that I think about that, I guess everyone deduced that if the people I was responsible for were fine, I should be too.

I realized in those 7 months that I didn't want to be invisible, neither in mind nor in that of others.

The shift to motherhood is certainly not easy. It is a role that takes a lot of our time and if we don't realize it, it totally absorbs us. Sometimes we feel alone or we feel that what we want or need is not so important.

During this process of adjusting to our new mothers life, accepting that we are no longer the same as before can be difficult for many women. But we must always remember that what we are doing is something that is priceless, and that we are probably doing it excellently, even though no one recognizes it or tells us out loud.

So, this post is to tell you that if you feel overwhelmed, invisible or not important today, you really are.

You are very important, and you are probably the gear that keeps everything running smoothly.

Keep up the good work, and if nobody else tells you this week, know that you are invaluable in the work you do and that your sacrifices do not go unnoticed.

The message has resonated with other mothers who feel the same as her. And although many do not pass or feel like her, this is definitely a common feeling in some of the mothers.

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Some comments have made the observation that it is not necessarily invisible if someone notices that we are not wearing an earring, it could be that the other person was distracted, that he does not pay attention to the details or simply did not know or wanted to tell him because it would seem that only They were watching how he looked. But I think that really the important thing is not the earring, but that feeling when we think we are forgotten or unimportant.

That is why it is important that we try to become more aware that when the baby is born, it also matters what the mother feels, because she has just gone through a monumental change, which not only modifies her lifestyle, but also her way of thinking and how she sees herself.