Let's talk today about how to look aids for pregnant women and teenagers, a situation that many mothers have to face and, in addition, sometimes they do it alone. An unplanned pregnant woman is a difficult situation to assume, but it is more difficult if the mother is alone or without personal, financial and support resources to be able to deal with getting ahead.
Denial first, fear, anger, everything is normal, but, in the end, it is necessary to make a decision and it is a very important decision, something that cannot be taken led by confusion, panic or the feeling of abandonment. It is a decision that will change our future and that is also vital for the son we would have. Therefore, before doing anything, we must calm down, seek good advice, support us in the family and organize our ideas, seeking, above all, resources to be able to decide freely and responsibly, without closing our eyes, but also without closing doors.
When a teenager or a very young woman becomes pregnant Without having planned it or having your own resources, there is a moment in which, if you decide to go ahead and give your child's life, you will face economic uncertainty and the logical concern for your future and that of the child.
If your family or your closest environment cannot or will not give you everything material support and help that she needs, or, simply, if she wants to take care of supporting her son economically by herself or with the help of her partner, who may also be very young and out of work, the situation is complicated. And if nobody supports her or is completely alone, she will still be more vulnerable and feel despair when she sees no way out.
In those cases you will need financial aid or material resources to move forward with the pregnancy if it is your decision.
In order for a woman to have her child and decide freely, there must be support networks and economic, labor and educational support measures for these girls who are going to be mothers. Although they will change their whole lives and face difficulties, they will not regret seeing their children grow by their side, but they need society to take care of them so that they can take care of their children and, also, be able to fight to achieve their dreams.
I have made a small compilation of resources to try to help these young women who have decided that their unexpected children are born and live with them. There are public resources and the best, to access them, is to go to the Town Hall Social Services office in which we live to guide us.
From the town councils themselves or in connection with the Social Services Area In the Autonomous Communities there are resources such as foster homes, orientation courses and nurseries that will be able to help these mothers. But, if this is not enough, there are also other types of organizations that we can address.
Associations to help pregnant young women
There are also organizations and associations who direct their efforts to help young pregnant women. You can find a list below.
Red Madre Foundation was created in 2007 with the purpose of activating a supportive network of support, advice and assistance to women to overcome any conflict that arose when faced with an unforeseen pregnancy, throughout Spain. It is made up of trained volunteers for the direct care of pregnant women with difficulties and of entities that work in support of maternity. Each year they serve more than 1,000 women.
The Godmother Foundation is dedicated to the comprehensive assistance of pregnant youth and adolescents, without resources and at risk of social exclusion, violence or abuse. It manifests aconfesional. It offers the possibility, even in some cases, for families to receive teenage mothers without resources for up to a year and a half, so that they can reorganize their lives and also offer job guidance.
Other organizations that can provide support are Fundvida, Fundación Vida and Provida.
A teenager or a very young woman can be wonderful mothers. What they learn, what they fight, what they face, is part of their life experience. They mature because they have a great responsibility, but they will also have a lot of time later to do those things that they cannot now. In Unexpected Pregnancy we can find a complete list of resources of all kinds to help pregnant young women.
You can also start the search, if you live in Madrid, on the Resources page for pregnant women.
Young mothers, mothers too
One of my childhood friends became pregnant at age 16. Her companions presented themselves to Selectivity the day she gave birth to twins. There was a lot of pain when facing maternity alone, although she had her parents. Sleepless nights, tiredness, nerves, fear for the future. He raised his children, studied, married, and fulfilled his dreams. She is a Primary teacher, her children are 20 years old today and they are in the University. He has traveled, he has loved, he has learned. What was lost in adolescence or in life, in the end, weighs much less than everything you have gained.
I hope that these pages I have compiled you help if you are pregnant as teenagers and you have decided to be moms. You need help but do not despair, look for it starting here and you will see how your children have given you a strength that you had never believed you had. Mothers are strong, and you will be mothers too, young, but as mothers as the others.
