MOM: YOU ARE NOT DOING IT WRONG, SIMPLY MOTHERHOOD CAN SOMETIMES BE VERY HARD

I don't know if all the mothers in the world have the same thing, but I have noticed that besides feeling an immense love for our children, there is another feeling that many moms share: the feeling that we are not doing things well enough.

It seems that, for some reason, mothers have a tendency to doubt our ability to do things. Therefore, today I want to dedicate a message to all mothers who have ever felt this way and tell them the following: you are not doing it wrong, simply motherhood can sometimes be very hard.

Being a mother: an adventure without a manual

In my daily life as a mother, I have often found myself asking myself this question: Will i be doing well? But, if you have also asked yourself, you will know as I do that It is not the first time that doubt goes through our mind.

Actually, we have to go back a long time, specifically to those first days (or first hours) after discovering that we are pregnant. We are full of fears, thousands of questions and A huge question about ourselves: Can i do it right?

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And is that being a mother can not only be summed up in the waiting and birth of a baby. That is only the beginning. Being a mother is a new experience that will be full of challenges and new emotions. But above all, Being a mother is an adventure without a manual.

We can read a lot during pregnancy, fill ourselves with information about the baby's care and what we can expect during the first years. But the truth is that nothing really prepares you for all the things you are about to live. Nobody prepares you for those difficult moments of being a mother.

Motherhood is wonderful, but it can also be very hard

Personally, I love talking about everything beautiful and beautiful that motherhood gives us. From those moments next to your children in which you die of love and that wonderful emotional and personal growth that you experience after becoming a mother and you are acquiring experience over the years.

But also, I like to talk about motherhood from a realistic and sincere perspective, so I will tell you: motherhood can sometimes be very hard. Starting with the postpartum, which in my opinion, is one of the darkest and most confusing stages of motherhood, for the whole series of physical and psychological changes, which come along with the new responsibility of caring for a newborn.

Fortunately, it does not last forever and is only from the multiple stages of motherhood. However, during the next decades we will encounter many challenges and many situations that will test our patience, and that without a doubt they will make us think that we are not up to this paper.

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But today I want to say something: Mom, it's not your fault. You are not doing things wrong. Just being a mother is very hard. Trying to raise your children and at the same time keep the house in order and keep the routines of the whole family is very hard. Trying to find a moment of rest, while you have that huge list of earrings circling in your head is very hard.

Seek to do the best for your children, and at the same time feel confused and conflicted For all the thousands of advice about motherhood, it's not your fault and it doesn't mean you don't have the ability to decide.

If you reach the point of exhaustion, if you feel overwhelmed, if you want a break from all your activities, if you long for an uninterrupted vacation or 48 hours of sleep, It does not mean that you are not a good mother or that you do not have the ability to be. It is simply very hard.

You're doing it right

All this might seem like a long complaint about being a mother and how tired she is. And yes, it is exhausting, challenging, demanding and much more. But not everything is tiredness and sacrifice, and motherhood It is also full of many positive moments, of many surprises and daily smiles.

I just want to tell you all this, because I don't want you to think that you are less mother or that you are epically failing in this matter of motherhood. It may seem that only you are doing badly or only you are exhausted, but I will tell you a secret: we have all felt this way. All of us have been lost at some point when we know what to do, but we don't usually talk about it.

And I'm going to tell you another secret: you're doing well. So stop blaming, stop criticizing yourself and be nicer to yourself. You are learning to be a mother, at the same time that your children are learning about life.

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And if you ever feel doubts or think you're not up to it, just turn to see the smile of your children and there you will get the answer you need. Motherhood can sometimes be very hard, but that doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.

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