It has been three years since I heard this phrase and I decided to talk about it: "Move, you have a belly that looks like a caesarean section," said with very little tact after having given birth. She was told by a nurse who went through the room to "control" that everything went well after the birth, and I wonder, where was the sensitivity left?
Because that comment colloquially, as if wanting to be funny, I don't think it can sit well with anyone. Luckily, I was quite animated and decided to let it pass, but I don't want to think about the effect that such a phrase can have on a mother who feels down after having given birth, something that is not uncommon.
The hormones, the great change that your body and your life has undergone with the arrival of the baby, fatigue, lack of sleep, possibly pain ... everything makes us not precisely for jokes. And, I don't tell the family to come to visit you (that too), but the staff that treats you in the hospital should be aware of these particularities And don't go funny.
Watching this scene from a distance, it occurs to me that I could have answered, like the joke, "Well, mine is happening", but of course, neither the mental agility at that time nor education would have allowed me to say something similar. So I just looked at her in bewilderment and nodded.
I could also have told him that this was not the best way to make me see that it was beneficial for my health to walk, since I hope that was his true intention and not that he had a smooth belly within a few hours of giving birth .
To all this, I was not lying down but sitting on the edge of the bed, hours after I got dizzy when I woke up, with which I had my reluctance (and especially precautions) to get back up and walk.
In short, that the least important to me at that moment was the size of the belly and the derogatory comment that "it looked like a caesarean belly" seemed very unfortunate. And more when I had already had one of those bellies a couple of years before.
It's not that I don't have a sense of humor or that I think that tone cannot be used in other situations, but, as professionals who deal with people who have just gone through labor, they should know and apply other ways to address them.
I hope that little tact shown when dealing with a woman who has just given birth Do not be generalized, the truth is that the rest of the staff seemed great in their treatment of me. Although we have all heard similar and worse stories, and if you do not take a look at some "Baby boom" program. A little empathy, please!
Clarification: If three years have passed for me to talk about this issue, it has not been due to any trauma or anything like that, it has only come to my mind to mentally review those moments after delivery, my feelings, the words of the people who accompanied me ... and I have decided to share it on the blog. And, Mrs. Nurse, indeed, mine happened, although it did not remain the same as before, nor is it that I care too much.
