Being a mother has left me many lessons and life lessons. But also, it has presented me with many truths. One of them is that being a mother is not rosy (I would say it is more like a mixture of many colors and many emotions). And another, that I dare to say that it is the only absolute truth of motherhood is that each woman lives in a unique and different way.
However, although most or all of us are clear that every motherhood is a world, I still see that in social networks frequently falls into that little competition between mothers who go out to work and full-time mothers.
Therefore, today I want to share a personal reflection about why should we compare mothers who stay at home with mothers who go to work and understand that motherhood is not competition, and no mother is better than another.
"It's more tired to be a mom than ..."
The end of this sentence depends on who says it. Mothers who go out to work will say that it is more tired to be a mother who works outside. Mothers who stay at home will say that it is more tired to be a full-time mom. But is that It doesn't make sense or logic for me to try to compare one with another.
And, if we see it objectively, simply there is no point of comparison because they are completely different experiences one from the other. The routine and activities of a mother who goes out to work every day, is totally different from those of a mother who stays at home with her children.
I will try to explain this with an example. For me, Try to compare them, it's like trying to compare the work of a doctor with that of a psychologist. They have some things in common: being professionals, attending health areas and helping people. But beyond that, their activities are totally different.
With mothers who work outside and those who stay at home, something similar happens. They have in common being mothers, the love for their children and their responsibilities for parenting and care. But their routine and activities are very different.
This does not mean that one is better than another, nor that it is more important. It simply means that each of them, in its own way, performs unique and special responsibilities, according to the needs of your family's routine and lifestyle.
In Babies and more, what if we start by being more tolerant of other mothers? But in addition to having totally different activities, there is another reason why I think it is not possible to compare them: the sacrifices made by one of them are very different from those made by the other. And with this, I mean the things that each of them should leave, according to their daily routine.
For example, mothers who stay at home, give up free time, have daily moments of disconnection, frequent or daily living with other adults who are not their family. Many times, the mental fatigue It is so much that you can lose track of time and not even know what day you live.
On the other hand, mothers who go to work outside the home, whether out of necessity or for following their professional dreams, must split their hearts in two, and sacrifice being always present with their children, in order to go out to work and then return running Home with your family and try to take advantage of those few hours to do your best. For them, the physical tiredness He is the one who is usually older.
Being two types of fatigue and different sacrifices, we can not argue who has it harder, because each has its own challenges and challenges daily. So instead of trying to compare or compete, I have a proposal: let's recognize and applaud ourselves and the other mothers.
Better, let's give each other a big applause
Being a mother is not easy and this can be affirmed by all mothers, regardless of whether we stay at home or go to work. So, Why make this experience more difficult when competing or comparing each other?
Instead of seeing who has it easier or harder, let's recognize all that we do and give each other a big applause, because what we all do is something worthy of admiration and recognition.
To the mother who stays at home, congratulations, because it is not easy to give up everything, even sometimes yourself, to take care of your children 24 hours a day, seven days a week. But without any doubt, The love, dedication and dedication that you give them every day is one of the most rewarding jobs.
To the mother who works outside, congratulations, because leaving a little piece of your heart every day is never an easy thing and attending to your two jobs, that of a professional and that of a mother, can be exhausting. But that example of improvement and effort that you give to your children, and the small but very valuable moments they share, are priceless.
In Babies and more Every mother-child is a worldEach life situation has its advantages and disadvantages, its benefits and challenges. But we all do the best we can and all, absolutely all, are extraordinary. So let's stop competing and compare the mother who stays at home with the mother who works outside, and let's dedicate ourselves to shaking hands and leaning on this beautiful and unpredictable adventure called motherhood.
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