You can be from opposing football teams, you may like different television series or a very different type of cuisine. Nothing seems to make life in common impossible. But, What happens when the members of the couple disagree about the number of children they would like to have?
This situation can lead at one end to the dissolution of the couple, to the breakdown of the relationship or, in the other, to the resignation by one of the members; at the intermediate point is the arrival to an agreement. Therefore it is important, before starting a common life, to consider The "big question": how many children would you like to have?
Because, in the case of the agreement, it may not be possible unless one of the two parties yields. That is, if one wants to have a child and the other three, they can agree to stay with two children. But what happens if one does not want to have children? Or if one does not yield in his posture? Then we could get to the breakup of the couple.
Another aspect of the subject is when a member of the couple renounces their deepest desires and then can become unhappy, which would undoubtedly also affect the relationship between them.
In this same sense it is not advisable to fool the other, to invent "tricks" to achieve a certain goal (not having children or having more children or, conversely, achieving a pregnancy) without reaching an agreement.
When one does not have too much conviction regarding the issue of having more or less children, when it is not an important issue for him or her (I can hardly imagine it, but of course there are cases), then there is no disagreement or the initial disagreement gives way to the "resignation" with conformity of the member of the couple that was not too clear.
It is also possible that, with the passage of time, perceptions change and the subject of children cannot be taken too seriously for example before reaching maturity (I believe that I have gone through several stages, from not wanting to have children to wish five offspring). But even when you grow up and have your family idea more profiled, you may change your mind over the years.
In short, although it is not decisive, it is important and One of the questions to ask before starting a life together is how many children you would like to have. Most will have already spoken. It is not about having this conversation on the second date (more than one or one would run away!) But when things move forward and go "seriously", when a common future arises, when there is a project.
I think it is one of the conversations that most excite when you are in the stage of falling in love, didn't it happen to you? Or was it a tense conversation in which you did not reach an agreement on the number of children? Did you finally solve it or have you come to break any relationship for this matter?
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