The decision to take your son or daughter to the nursery, especially when she is still a baby, is one of the most difficult that a father and a mother have to take (and more the mother, if she has taken care of all that weather).
Separate yourself from the baby, think about whether he will be fine, leave knowing that he could be happy, but he could be crying, knowing that you stop being the one who takes care of him, who controls him and that you leave him with people you don't know but you have to trust, is something that drives us the operation of this society that remains very painful for all.
This is what a woman felt when taking her 10-month-old baby to a nursery, pain from separating from her, but something else, because when she left her she discovered that one of the caregivers had Down syndrome. Would you take your baby to a nursery school with an educator with Down syndrome? She decided that no, flatly no, and took it out of the nursery.
How it all happened
As we read in Cuatro, the mother pointed the girl to the nursery school and led her to start the adaptation process. When he had only been going for two days, with only 3 hours in total, he decided that he would not return to her because one of her daughter's educators had Down syndrome.
Apparently, it was after the second day, going around at home, after picking up the girl, who decided that she would not return. According to those responsible for the nursery, located in the city of Ferrara, in Bologna, the woman called very upset, explaining that she would not take the girl again and recriminating that no one had previously informed her that I worked there "the girl that".
"That girl"
That girl is a 37-year-old assistant who works in that nursery school since six years ago. Before entering it, he was working for eight years in a school in the same city.
Her role in kindergarten is to help the three teachers responsible for children from zero to three years old and, as the school principal replied, "She is perfectly qualified to do what she does".
After the call, the director met with the mother, who reiterated the reasons. According to the head of the center:
He did not add any insult or adjective, but I consider that these words express unacceptable behavior towards an autonomous person and prepared to develop their work and assigned tasks.
The assistant, knowing the reasons why the mother had decided not to take her daughter back to kindergarten she went home quite nervous. The director spoke with her to reassure her and assured the media that "she has all our confidence."
When our baby's safety is everything
For her, for the mother, Your daughter's safety is everything. The mere fact of leaving her in a nursery school already generated anxiety, doubts and suffering, and seeing that there was an assistant with Down syndrome, her fears increased. He must have begun to imagine her in his arms and must have imagined an accident and could not bear the idea that it could have prevented him.
Let's say I understand your reasons, though I don't share them, because they are things that happen when you don't bother meeting people, their capabilities and, above all, all the good they can bring.
It is true that a person with Down syndrome leaves with a certain disadvantage with respect to the rest of the people, but that does not mean that he can be perfectly valid in his work, and even at a level higher than the others: I do not know many people like him , but the few that I know and with whom I have spoken, have always shown me to be kind, friendly and free of value judgments towards other people.
A few years ago my son was lucky to share a class with a child with Down syndrome. He was older than them and maybe that's why they were on a fairly even level, but the fact of being a companion of him gave for many talks, questions and answers: what happened to him, if he would heal, if it was forever, how it affected him, etc., and the whole class was dedicated, the whole course, to help and, in a way, to protect and always keep you in mind. I got excited the day they went on an excursion and my son went hand in hand with him, waiting for him to be attentive to the line and talking about his things.
I do. I would take my baby to a nursery school where there was an educator with Down syndrome. And I wouldn't do it just for her, she sure must be extremely affectionate with the children, but because the mere fact that she works there says a lot about that center: I may be wrong, but I am sure that they are all super affectionate professionals who go out of their way for children. Don't you think?
