One of the things of our children that dislodge us the most are their tantrums. Those moments of loud and annoying crying in which they don't accept no for an answer, and in which they are even able to harm themselves only in order to bring their desire or demand to the ultimate consequences.
They dislodge us because the reaction is, in our opinion, disproportionate, because do not attend to reasons and because inside we do not stop shuffling options and solutions to get out of that moment, often without getting it.
As time passes and they learn to get along better, parents need a little understanding, precisely that which this father does not receive and that led him to write a post on Facebook that has gone viral.
What you are seeing is a baby becoming a social being
A while after dinner, the father protagonist of this story, which has a blog called "I have no idea what I am doing" In reference to his fatherhood, he showed that he really did. In fact, he does know, at least a little, what he is carrying, by the common sense of his words.
AdvertisingSitting in the car with his daughter, still crying, he wrote on Facebook what he would have liked to shout to the four winds. The bad thing about it is that screaming relieves enough and not so much writing; and the good thing is that screaming hears you few people while writing you reach almost 400 thousand people who have read it, if not more.
In his Facebook post he explained what had just happened, along with the photo that heads this post:
We have gone to dinner as a family, and my daughter has had a tantrum because Mom has not let him throw chicken strips. So he has screamed and kicked, and again he has screamed and kicked even more. As I was the only one who had finished eating, I had the pleasure of getting her out of Red Robin.
That is, they went to eat at a hamburger, a place where families with young children are often seen, and the girl, two years oldHe started throwing the chicken until Mom told him he couldn't keep doing that. This was the trigger for a tantrum and the father decided to take the girl outside so he wouldn't bother. Then he left the burguer with the crying girl and what he received was disapproving gestures, as if he was not able to educate his daughter:
I have gone out in front of the bar and everyone has looked at me, mostly without children, I understand. No one with children would put that serious face on me, with twisted lips and an aspect that seems to say: "If you can't control your daughter, then don't go out." Well, no. I can not control it. Not all the time. Not yet.
Without a doubt, they are realistic and humble words of a father, as we all can be, being honest: "I can't control my two-year-old daughter", as nobody can do, no matter how much they want to make us believe. They will call you for something "the terrible two" or "the first adolescence".
He is two years old and it will take years to teach him to act correctly in public; Besides, the only way to do it is to go out with her and show her what is right and what is wrong. Saying 'no' a million times, letting her have a tantrum and saying 'no' again.
These lessons require patience, hard work and real-world experiences, and I am sorry for those in the burguer, for being irritated with their tantrum, but they are part of this practice. Your parents did the same with you, and thanks to that you now know how to recognize when a child does something irritating in a restaurant. This is how you learned to see a situation and say: "That father needs to control his children." This is how you learned to be respectable people.
I get it. Children are annoying when they make noise in a restaurant. I know. I am living it. But before getting angry and judging, you should realize that what you are witnessing is not a problem of poor education of the children, but rather, of parents who are working hard to fix the situation. You are seeing what it takes to turn a small child into a person.
Let's change the chip
So it is clear: we must all change the chip because one of two, or we are parents and therefore we should understand what those parents are living, or we have been children, and as such we should also understand what those parents are living.
And above all, because this father is explaining that his daughter had a tantrum and that he looked for a way to solve it. There was an intention of get your daughter to not bother anyone, so support should come with even more reason.
What if children bother and parents do nothing?
This is worth it, that there are parents who do nothing when their children bother. And I don't talk about normal children's things like playing a little, laughing or crying. I speak of children who truly disrespect people unknown, without any adult Persone to apologize or explain to your child that this is not right.
In that case, there is not much to talk about: the bad face has been won, and even some words that can urge the adult to be more careful at another similar time. And there is no better way to get respectful adults than to teach them, from a very young age, how to respect others.
And while they are taught: understanding, as this father said. Understanding and a little moral support, which never hurts.
