Two days ago we met the case of Myriam, the American woman who volunteered as a surrogate mother (or surrogate mother) to gestate the son of a Catalan homosexual couple and, as in Spain this is not allowed, our vision on this subject is still confusing, since there are always points in favor and points against.
It is for this reason that I find it interesting to ask moms (and dads) who usually read the blog if, in case of not being able to have children, they would look for a rental mother to which to implant an own ovum and a sperm of his partner.
As we have said, in Spain it is not legal, but in countries like the United States, where Spanish couples can go to carry out the procedures and have a child with a surrogate mother.
The opinion will probably be different if the answer comes from a father or a mother. Men basically put a sperm that, in both cases, joins an ovum and nests in a foreign uterus (because we don't have one of our own, of course). Surely we would prefer this to happen in our wife's, but we will probably have less conflict if this happens in the body of another woman than our partner can have.
A woman, as I say, may have a different opinion and will surely suffer an important internal debate to make a decision, since it's not the same to gestate your baby yourself, with all that this entails, both hormonally and emotionally (many women explain that they miss being pregnant when they have already been mothers), what to see as another woman has it inside.
Perhaps I am wrong and I speak thinking of the women who read the blog and of my own, who are mostly mothers. Perhaps I should try to think of those women who fail to become a mother, who see that the years pass irremediably and that the attempts are being unsuccessful, despite going to fertility clinics. These women do not have a reference. They cannot explain that they prefer to be pregnant from experience, because they do not have it. Perhaps for this reason, for these women, making the decision to try to have a child of their own and of the couple, even if it was gestated in another belly, is something much easier (more when the mother feels the “call” and her desires and aspirations focus almost exclusively on the need to be a mother).
In any case, I ask you to try to put yourself on stage, thinking of those times when you still had no children and imagine a path full of illusions and disappointments trying to be mothers or fathers. Once you have done this mental exercise, What would you do
